Our matchmaking process is designed to be simple for you, but there’s a lot of work that goes on behind the scenes! Let’s take a deep dive into how we send you out on dates.
Gathering your information
Enter your information, as well as your match preferences, in your dashboard. You'll input information like age, height, gender, kids status/preference, political stance and religion. We also gather hobbies, interests, as well as your dealbreakers! Pro tip: click the stars to indicate level of importance of the fields. We'll also ask you to upload pictures of yourself that we can share with prospective matches.
Take our consultation chat to see which membership tier makes sense for you, we'll review your info and preferences. If you want to talk to a human, look out for one of our welcome emails with a booking link. You can submit any questions you have about the process in our chat or during our live call.
Searching for your match
Your local matchmaker will search in and out of our database to find matches for you. We present your information to prospective matches and gather their information to make sure it’s a match. Once we find someone promising, we will present their information to you! We’re happy to answer any specific questions about your match, but the goal is for you to learn about one another organically when you meet in person. As part of our intake process, we will ask you if you have any questions you'd like us to use to filter out your potential matches. We call these "screener" questions.
This step is where the bulk of the work occurs. We reach out to far more people than you'll realize because we only show you matches after we've done quite a bit of filtering. A bonus of this is that it'll shield you from some of the rejection you might have experienced on the apps.
Setting up the date
Once there’s mutual interest, we gather availability and preferences for a date. For hetero couples, typically we allow the woman to state her date/location preferences first then leave the rest of the date planning to the man. We continue coordinating with both parties until we have a time, day, and location for a first date!
As we get closer to your date, we will confirm with both parties that the date is planned as scheduled. And right before the date, we will share phone numbers with each party to make meeting in person go smoothly! Then you two will take it from there.
Follow-up
After the date, we will ask how it went. We are looking for feedback on the following:
Do you want to see the person again?
Were they respectful? People who get several negative reviews will no longer be able to date within our network.
Do you want to adjust your search criteria?
Some people realize they are OK with expanding their search distance or broaden their age range in order to get more matches
Was the date venue a good one?
Was it too loud to have a pleasant conversation?
Also, for those who are brave enough we are always happy to provide feedback! But we won't give it unsolicited. Just make sure to ask!
A huge benefit of this process is that there is NO messaging back and forth beforehand and your matchmaker is a human go-between for setting up dates. This allows you to:
enjoy someone else vouching and introducing you to a potential match
have someone else ask the awkward questions (are you looking to get married?)
reduce chances of no-shows for a date (can't hide rude behaviors behind a screen when there's a matchmaker involved! and plus anyone who does that can't date within our community anymore)
engage with someone who won't ghost you mid-conversation
